A Conversation.
"Sometimes life is too hard to be alone, and sometimes life is too good to be alone.
The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice."
How do you know that I am facing the exact same dilemma at the moment?
do i have to tell u, how & why?
yeah you're right, maybe not...
"Infatuation is not quite the same thing as love; it's more like love's shady second cousin who's always borrowing money and can't hold down a job.
I'd learned enough from life's experiences to understand that destiny's interventions can sometimes be read as invitation for us to address and even surmount our biggest fears. It doesn't take a great genius to recognize that when you are pushed by circumstance to do the one thing you have always most specifically loathed and feared, this can be, at the very least, an interesting growth opportunity."
its the best
Haha, where are you getting this stuff? Not that its not nice...
made me see through my difficult times and later till now ...gave me insight of how it happens not only for me but to everyone all round us;
east west south north
"My love affair with (him) had a wonderful element of romance to it, which I will always cherish. But it was not an infatuation, and here’s how I can tell: because I did not demand that he become my Great Emancipator or my Source of All Life, nor did I immediately vanish into that man’s chest cavity like a twisted, unrecognizable, parasitical homonculus. During our long period of courtship, I remained intact within my own personality, and I allowed myself to meet (him) for who he was."
anyways....its not difficult...to come out.
clear out ur 'gooman' i.e. "perception". Beat it and all will be okay and settle automatically.
its like a dust storm
blurring vision for a while ....
I've been surviving, under high stress
hahhaa....
You should start writing it...in another few years it will do wonders.
start reading my blog than .....
pata hai, piyar jo hai na woh maafi ki tarah hota hai
ya hota hai ya nahi hota
its a u-turn..
i urge u to give ur love that place
please...
Stop confusing me woman!!!
I am already there...
settle with what u love
a sincere advise warna confuse hi raho gae
halaat badal jatay hein yaar
unko badalna pardhta hai ...humari tarah!!
dont sit in the middle of the seesaw
Its not about halaat anymore yaar!!!
maybe i dont know exactly wat u r going thru.
I fear that knowingly I am going to step into a disaster, what if she stays to be a b**** and doesn't change?
hmm
u know her atleast but wat if u decide for sumone else and she turns out to be b**** too!! atleast in this case u know...
Yes I know...that is what is torturing me actually
pata hai urdu mein ik mahavara hai
"bakri ki dum parkro aur niklo"
so u also do that...in my suggestion.
What does it mean? Explain na....
deikho bakri is escape goat
samjh ayee
Hmm trying to understand. Does this mean I should escape?
evrybody escapes from situations, we just need a solid reason to flee.
have u made a mental map of good points vs. bad
Hmm....
which side weighs more.
Too many times...
It falls upon how I feel in the end...
"Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebody—really want him—it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause a lacerating injury."
see everyone feels the same type of pain
its surgical.
"People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say, ‘I can work around that. I can make something out of it.’? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it’s always going to pretty and sparkly.
Then what to do, keep living like this...
every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world—that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimatesecrets of your marriage."
You actually do....
I question then, if you really claim to love a person so much than why can't you settle with their faults...
its mind game that let u feel that u r not settling wid the faults...
but in reality, look at urself, u have spent 3 or more yrs wid the same faults
still willing or wanting to see and spend tym wid that faulty person
everyone is faulty
Hmm true...
u r too
i can count for u, ur faults.
I would like to hear em...
the biggest fault is that u never trust ur partner
u always doubt them
u doubt all except u
Hmm so I have trust issues...
and u trust ppl who joined up ur life in childhood coz ur sense of acknowledgement wasnt this fearful than.
the biggest fear is the fear of fear
u know wat i mean?
trust issues ....as in getting hurt urself ...in the meanwhile u hurt ppl
and ofcourse than they become defensive
every person has a defense mechanisim
seriously i have learnt to trust.
yes they do breach few tyms but hold u most of the tyms.
its like a game playing in sets
the person winning most sets wins the game
i dont know whr all this is coming but i feel i can be a guri now .....
lols @ me being a guru
but all this makes sense
Hmmm....
all our lives we live in farce but we cant farce ourselves.
I am trying to make sense of it...
grr88
But it is helping I can tell you that...
i was commissioned for this by some heavenly powers, i guess.
"Relationships are mirrors.'
baki trust Allah and keep praying for right decisionmaking. than recognise that ryt path He shows and stick to it wid grace of Allah
all will be well, inshaAllah
Insha Allah
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