World, this not my genre!
This is such a strange world or maybe the times have changed! Or I've grown up (old)! Or hit mid-life crisis!
It feels as if these worldly relationships and world itself has no meaning. All we're doing is to push the time each day and night towards our end. And to face these changing life patterns, relationships and strange times, all what we is require is todo sabr (show persistence). Because that is the only right thing to do if we want to succeed in Akhira (Day of Judgement). And i firmly believe in it, its true.
While we comply with this fact, each passing day I feel as people around start looking at such people as meek person, who has given up and has no energy to combat with worldly challenges. Has exhausted the life tricks to trick other people! The relationships for whom you have sacrificed everything, can't sacrifice even time to share your thoughts or small achievements. Anyway! let its be, Sabr! Allah is all hearer and knowing (And thank God for this).
Its not about reciprocity of feelings, its about feelings altogether. People in this world are so busy in their routine that they forget to look at the person who is getting slow in the pace of life. they look at his/her situations for a while, judge a conclusion and feel sorry (or good) about it, pass a comment and move on. This is the how much we are giving to our close relationships. We judge our relationship on the basis of times, we meet, call, message, watsapp, viber, email, or looking at their Facebook posts (statuses).
We judge and conclude that the other person (who is our friend, close relative, etc.) is either happy or not so happy. If he/she is happy and that person probably doesn't need you at that time (you think) and if that person is not so happy, than what can you do? you're helpless yourself, you're also engulfed in your own set of problems. But still you will pray for him/her in your heart. And avoid putting any effort to just send them a personalized email or message to just let them know that whatever is the problem, you're there with them. That's it. But no!
We, these days, are so self-grounded that the measurement of feelings have been set by our own selves and only we know about it! (or others should automatically know about them)
Imagine, if one of your friend, is full of Sabr and is happily passing their worst times, you feel they don't need you or your time! And if by chance they do ask your opinion on something to just speak their mind/heart, we make sure to tell them that they are having bad time (which they probably aren't) and hold on it.
They should hold on.
Whereas we can just change our approach; active to passive empathize with them and tell them that they are very brave and you really see their emotional efforts in combating whatever circumstances they are facing. This is it! They shared discussion just to get this support and reaffirmation from their loved one. Because the one who faces problems with utmost Sabr and steadfastness just need reaffirmation. They are nor week, they are warriors who just sat down with you take few easy breaths! They approached to just feel secure, wanting to hold on to your words and presence.
We all are so self-conceited that we just judge in measures of time. If one person is acting brave doesn't mean he/she is brave! If he/she is wearing a smile doesnt mean they are happy! If he/she is crying doesn't necessarily means they are unhappy! So stop judging and start talking as an empathizer and not a problem fixer. Maybe your 5 minutes will give him/her the strength to cope with another 5 months or may a year!
Simply by sitting with them does the wonders! But probably times have changed or my way of looking things haven't change! Maybe I live in the Aesop's fable, where all things end well; friends and relatives do things for their beloveds as they wish to! and all stories are happy endings!
Or maybe not!
"It's impossible for me to adopt the regime of Hippocrates. World, this not my genre!"
It feels as if these worldly relationships and world itself has no meaning. All we're doing is to push the time each day and night towards our end. And to face these changing life patterns, relationships and strange times, all what we is require is todo sabr (show persistence). Because that is the only right thing to do if we want to succeed in Akhira (Day of Judgement). And i firmly believe in it, its true.
While we comply with this fact, each passing day I feel as people around start looking at such people as meek person, who has given up and has no energy to combat with worldly challenges. Has exhausted the life tricks to trick other people! The relationships for whom you have sacrificed everything, can't sacrifice even time to share your thoughts or small achievements. Anyway! let its be, Sabr! Allah is all hearer and knowing (And thank God for this).
Its not about reciprocity of feelings, its about feelings altogether. People in this world are so busy in their routine that they forget to look at the person who is getting slow in the pace of life. they look at his/her situations for a while, judge a conclusion and feel sorry (or good) about it, pass a comment and move on. This is the how much we are giving to our close relationships. We judge our relationship on the basis of times, we meet, call, message, watsapp, viber, email, or looking at their Facebook posts (statuses).
We judge and conclude that the other person (who is our friend, close relative, etc.) is either happy or not so happy. If he/she is happy and that person probably doesn't need you at that time (you think) and if that person is not so happy, than what can you do? you're helpless yourself, you're also engulfed in your own set of problems. But still you will pray for him/her in your heart. And avoid putting any effort to just send them a personalized email or message to just let them know that whatever is the problem, you're there with them. That's it. But no!
We, these days, are so self-grounded that the measurement of feelings have been set by our own selves and only we know about it! (or others should automatically know about them)
Imagine, if one of your friend, is full of Sabr and is happily passing their worst times, you feel they don't need you or your time! And if by chance they do ask your opinion on something to just speak their mind/heart, we make sure to tell them that they are having bad time (which they probably aren't) and hold on it.
They should hold on.
Whereas we can just change our approach; active to passive empathize with them and tell them that they are very brave and you really see their emotional efforts in combating whatever circumstances they are facing. This is it! They shared discussion just to get this support and reaffirmation from their loved one. Because the one who faces problems with utmost Sabr and steadfastness just need reaffirmation. They are nor week, they are warriors who just sat down with you take few easy breaths! They approached to just feel secure, wanting to hold on to your words and presence.
We all are so self-conceited that we just judge in measures of time. If one person is acting brave doesn't mean he/she is brave! If he/she is wearing a smile doesnt mean they are happy! If he/she is crying doesn't necessarily means they are unhappy! So stop judging and start talking as an empathizer and not a problem fixer. Maybe your 5 minutes will give him/her the strength to cope with another 5 months or may a year!
Simply by sitting with them does the wonders! But probably times have changed or my way of looking things haven't change! Maybe I live in the Aesop's fable, where all things end well; friends and relatives do things for their beloveds as they wish to! and all stories are happy endings!
Or maybe not!
"It's impossible for me to adopt the regime of Hippocrates. World, this not my genre!"
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